Command Structures

Command: To exercise a dominating influence over, to have within your authority, power or control. To rule or govern. To have at one’s immediate bidding or disposal.

Structure: The action of construction or building. Something having a definite or fixed pattern of organization.

Together they form an organized pattern or shaped ruling structure. To some extent all of us live under a variety of command structures. From the top you might consider your elective ‘faith’ to be represented by a governing body (God) who has presented a pattern of behaviors or actions which you are then ‘commanded’ by action of your belief in these actions to actively represent the ‘desire’ of the ‘commander’ (God) by complying with these commands. In this ‘view’ (God) becomes the dominant who commands via the ‘instructions’ or ‘pattern’ of his design – under the supposition that compliance to command or following these orders will result in a favorable relationship with (God) which will be ‘rewarded’ upon completion of the entirety of the pattern (death).

Second to this possible etheric structure you may have an interpretive or secondary command system comprised of a religious organization which is given the task and duty to interpret and disperse the ‘detail of command’ to all within the influence of that command.

Next you have your government with the President, at least structurally, appearing to be ‘in command’ with the rights and ability to dictate, have influence over, dominate, express power or control, rule and essentially govern your behavior, rights and privileges.

Following your government you would have your employer or supervisor. They exercise as many of these dominant rights as they can to direct and control your life.

Last you have your family. The structure within your family will alter and change over the course of your life as those who once enjoyed positions of power and control become dependent and within the authority and control of those they once ruled.

Not to be forgotten are the hidden controllers, these might be considered to be anyone or ‘organization’ which you owe money to. That exchange of money is in reality a contract within which you vacate your rights by some measure or degree, most often your working time, in exchange for the right or privilege of borrowing an unaccumulated or earned reward.

Within a D/s relationship you will find distinct patterns of command structure. Often these patterns are designed around familiar or at least marginally understood ‘larger’ already in existence designs. Generally the dominant will utilize familiar rituals to reinforce in the person they wish to dominate that they are the ‘dominant’ or that they are ruling, in control and ‘must’ be obeyed.

The problem occurs primarily when the dominant within this structure has only the broadest understanding of what ruling is. Often they will see the surface of ruling behavior as all that is needed to ‘be’ dominant, seldom considering the broad and much deeper implications of ‘removal of choice’ and ‘acceptance of responsibility’ for actions which result in unsatisfactory results.

Most good businessmen would tell you that managing other people in the work place is a dicey deal. It is complicated. People vary, what they think varies, how they feel varies, how they respond to stimulation varies. Allowing for these variables and having a reasoned well thought out ‘plan’ of action to address these variations is how the business tries to model with their employees sufficiently to produce the highest possible level of outcome. To do this, to manage people on a daily basis takes information, insight, and a good bit of luck. To gain the information necessary to create the management tools the businessman will go to specific management classes. They have to learn how to manage people, how to rule over their lives without resorting to destructive or damaging actions.

If you ask a dominant how many management classes they have taken, you will probably hear ‘none’. After all, how hard is it to tell someone what to do? Well, it isn’t hard to do for five or ten minutes. But it becomes hard over the course of days, weeks or months, particularly if the behaviors necessary to directing the actions of someone else are not natural. If you have been the ‘governed’ for the entirety of your life, you essentially have no real skills or tools which make you able to direct or manage others. You aren’t ‘born’ with these skills. And, they don’t magically come into existence through the desire to possess them. You can improve your understanding of what is ‘fantasy domination’ and what may work in real life by seeking out comprehensive books on management and relationships. You can attend workshops and seminars relating to management – business. You can even go back to school for some of these classes.

In the end, how successful you will be as a dominant will rely entirely on how well you grasp the dynamics and complexities of interacting with other human beings. If you are currently socially lousy, your odds are rather crappy. If you have trouble getting along with people, are subject to bursts of intense anger or loss of behavior control – you will not be a good dominant. Figure out who you are in reality, try not to be swayed by the ‘fantasy dominant’ illusions so common on the Internet and within some groups. For all beginning dominants out there, the real place to begin is by being a submissive or bottom. This is the school for S/m from the bottom up or the inside out. If you cannot utterly know and understand the person you wish to direct, then, in my opinion, you shouldn’t be directing them. Human lives, feelings, thoughts, opinions and belief’s are not yours to play with. Giving orders isn’t enough.


~ by TheDungeonMaster on April 16, 2010.

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